“Self-love”. “Love yourself”. It’s all the rage nowadays. Yeah, easier said than done for some of us though, am I right? Especially empaths. Those of us who can feel the way another is feeling from across the room, without speaking or sometimes without even seeing. It can be frustratingly easy to let others’ vibes and feelings influence our own, making it difficult to decipher what’s me and not me. Sometimes self-love doesn't have to look like mirror work, affirmations, yoga, massages and lengthy bath sessions; sometimes it can be as simple as disregarding those around you. For example, my mind can sometimes dwell on how somebody else took something I said for hours, days even. “I hope they didn't take it that way” or whatever. So in those instances, what I’m working on is not letting those thoughts have more than 3 seconds in my mind before I shut them down with some common sense “who the fck cares!” advice. Because really, who cares? Just your monkey mind cares, and monkeys are crazy. Usually, we are all much more concerned about ourselves and our actions than anyone else is.
As I’ve said before, I think everything depends on intention. If you know you have the right intentions towards yourself, the people and world around you, then no matter how things come out of your mouth it doesn't matter. If someone takes something the “wrong way” or too personally, that’s their experience and it doesn't change who you are or what you stand for. Now, because we’re human, this introspection can serve as a lesson on intention. If you feel weird about an interaction with someone, and you’re trying to justify yourself; just check in. Hmm… what was my intention in saying x, y or z? It’s been my experience that sometimes my intentions were not pure, sometimes I just wanted to be right or wanted validation for something I knew was off on my end, or sometimes I was triggered by something silly and I maaaaaybe I wanted to jab at someone. In those moments you don’t beat yourself up, you make things right. You apologize, forgive yourself, and appreciate that you just taught yourself a lesson. You’re evolving and learning on your own, bravo! Pat yourself on the back and get the F on with it, eh? There’s for sure another lesson lingering around the corner. XO
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